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Need some advice about unsupportive parents.

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Mental92 Mental92 SA Posts: 3
1 3 Mar 2010
I have recently become a vegetarian much to my parents disgust. I'm now in a dilemma, my parents are your typical Australian 'Chuck a few snags on the barbie' type. They have never agreed with my decision and it's not worrying me too much. As I have always wanted to be a vegetarian. The only problem is that they refuse to buy salad or vegetarian sausages and such for me when they're having a BBQ. It's annoying because that means I have to walk down town to the grocers, pay for my own stuff and walk back (I'm not quite old enough to drive on my own). It's wearing really thin that they can't just accept my decision and actually stock the fridge with other products other than meat for a decent meal. I know it sounds really bad but, I know they're doing it on purpose to try and make me give in and eat meat so they don't have to go to the trouble of buying vegetarian things. I've talked to them but they just shrug me off. I need some help/advice. Would be very much appreciated.
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Jesse Jesse VIC Posts: 1117
2 3 Mar 2010
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Sorry to hear they're not supportive. Good on you for sticking with it! Unsupportive parents can be one of the biggest challenges. But with time, most come to accept, or even respect the decision.

The first thing that come to mind is that if you can arrange to go shopping with your parents, then you might be able to influence what gets bought. And at the very least you'll get a lift to the shops to pick up your own essentials.
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xMISSMONSTERx xMISSMONSTERx WA Posts: 2582
3 3 Mar 2010
My mom had a big problem when I decided to become a vegetarian. I guess I got to her because she's an animal lover. I just explained why I felt like I had to do this (Vegetarianism) and that I hoped she would respect my choice.
I used to offer to cook dinner every night, so my mom would take me shopping, and then I would just grab everything I needed to cook the meals I'd planned. My mom was pretty amazed at the meals, and glad she didn't have to cook every night.

If their problem is that they can't be bothered getting you vege sausages etc, maybe just go shopping with her and grab them yourself. If she really has a problem buying them, maybe pay for it out of your own pocket while she's there. It might make her warm to the idea of you deciding to become a vegetarian, it also might make her think that if you're willing to fork out for it yourself, you truely believe it's the right way to live/right thing to do.
Alot of parents don't understand because they were brought up eating meat.

If it's because they're worried about your health, get them to accompany you to the doctor, so they can learn about your dietary needs, and that it's a healthier lifestyle choice.

Good luck, and stand your ground happy
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Kirrilly Kirrilly VIC Posts: 2092
4 3 Mar 2010
They don't buy you salad?! geez, that's rough :S

How long has it been? A lot of the time parents think their children are going through phases but if you hold out a bit longer they might change their minds?

There's gotta be simple stuff like vegies & pasta in the cupboard right? Learn to make some basic dishes incorporating vegetables so you get your proper nutrients. Try veg pizza, pasta bake, different salads, etc.

Hang in there!
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4_da_animals1 4_da_animals1 SA Posts: 3293
5 3 Mar 2010
Mental92 said:
I have recently become a vegetarian much to my parents disgust. I'm now in a dilemma, my parents are your typical Australian 'Chuck a few snags on the barbie' type. They have never agreed with my decision and it's not worrying me too much. As I have always wanted to be a vegetarian. The only problem is that they refuse to buy salad or vegetarian sausages and such for me when they're having a BBQ. It's annoying because that means I have to walk down town to the grocers, pay for my own stuff and walk back (I'm not quite old enough to drive on my own). It's wearing really thin that they can't just accept my decision and actually stock the fridge with other products other than meat for a decent meal. I know it sounds really bad but, I know they're doing it on purpose to try and make me give in and eat meat so they don't have to go to the trouble of buying vegetarian things. I've talked to them but they just shrug me off. I need some help/advice. Would be very much appreciated.
i know your pain :S i have managed to con mum into supporting me being a pescetarian, still working on the vegetarian plan tho happy
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ckimana ckimana NSW Posts: 2545
6 3 Mar 2010
My parents were the same. I just refused the meat but got the constant criticism! You may have to buy some veg products out of your own money. Do you get pocket money? If not, maybe look at a casual job somewhere?

Also, pre-packaged veg mock meats can be expensive. It's cheaper using veggies/lentils/rice/pasta etc (I know, not as appealing!), but it may have to do in the meantime.

It also may not help your situation to push your beliefs on them, as they may become more stubborn! Be subtle and they may end up buying you foods to please you.

Stick to your beliefs, coz if you don't, who will.
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april-san april-san QLD Posts: 368
7 4 Mar 2010
xMISSMONSTERx said:
If it's because they're worried about your health, get them to accompany you to the doctor, so they can learn about your dietary needs, and that it's a healthier lifestyle choice.
That's a good idea, but just be careful - it might backfire on you.
Last year I had a medical issue, and Mum and I went through a lot of doctors before we found one who knew what he was doing. The things some of these doctors were saying were ridiculous, one even suggested that my problem was because I was vegetarian! Which was absolute rubbish, as the problem had nothing to do with diet.

It's a bit scary to think that some doctors aren't properly aware of vegetarianism! Definitely something that needs to be fixed!
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Buttons Buttons VIC Posts: 229
8 4 Mar 2010
april-san said:
xMISSMONSTERx said:
If it's because they're worried about your health, get them to accompany you to the doctor, so they can learn about your dietary needs, and that it's a healthier lifestyle choice.
That's a good idea, but just be careful - it might backfire on you.
Last year I had a medical issue, and Mum and I went through a lot of doctors before we found one who knew what he was doing. The things some of these doctors were saying were ridiculous, one even suggested that my problem was because I was vegetarian! Which was absolute rubbish, as the problem had nothing to do with diet.

It's a bit scary to think that some doctors aren't properly aware of vegetarianism! Definitely something that needs to be fixed!
I would recommend getting a general blood test, just so you have a "baseline reading" of your iron levels and the like. It might help your parents worry a bit less about your vegetarianism (parents are always going to worry), and can help you pinpoint any deficiencies that need to be addressed.
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ShadowDoubt ShadowDoubt QLD Posts: 753
9 5 Mar 2010
heyy. just tell your parents that its YOUR choice and u feel strongly about being a veg. dont worry about them, they'll soon adjust.
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Truc Truc VIC Posts: 85
10 5 Mar 2010
my mum was really happy that i went veg but my dad is so annoying!
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