David, I read something recently and I thought I would share it:
"I use an approach to vegan education that doesn't compromise on the moral message, and I urge all advocates to do so, just as human rights advocates don't compromise on the moral message. Anything less by us is perpetuating speciesism, and as speciesism is the cause of the violence, perpetuating it is not the answer. So when I talk to people, I make sure to talk about our moral obligation to animals . On the online forums especially, no matter what, you will encounter people who say you are "self righteous" etc at the very mention of the word vegan, and you just have to respond to those comments in a way that shows people you are not personally judging them, but rather taking issue with violence itself. With practice, in a very short time, I am improving and I see the results in the dialogues I have with people. I find it to be VERY EFFECTIVE to take an approach that comments on violence itself, almost in the abstract, rather than on what an individual is doing (every person is different of course, but I find in general that is a good start). Everyone of us claims we want peace and reject violence - so it is very effective way to get the necessary dialogue going, at least in my experience. I also remind people that I was not vegan for the entirety of my life (in my case I was non vegan for the vast majority of my life), and so who am I to judge ? I let them know that this is about peace and justice and ending violence. I find it works pretty well to keep the dialogue going. I never discuss single issues, or promote welfare reforms, I always discuss veganism and I find relating the issue to non-violence is the key to many people's heart.
Also, I find that many people are extremely defensive because they have been attacked by the pro-violence advocates who call them corpse munchers and what not, so we have to undo that damage, or they have encountered other vegan advocates who compromise on the moral issue when discussing animal rights, and suggests "cutting down" and "happy" animal product alternatives as the right thing to do!
I find that people who have encountered that approach get overly defensive when presented with the simple truth that if you take animal rights seriously and if you want to help them at all, you go vegan, not just "cut down" on animal product consumption or use "happy animal" products. Those people, in my experience on forums, are the MOST defensive and MOST turned off to veganism, because someone has already come along and made it "easy" for them, and I take issue with advocates who compromise on the moral message because that is speciesist and also makes the job harder.
With regard to tabling, I have yet to encounter someone who accuses me of being condescending. If they even seem to be going in the direction that they feel judged, I am very quick to pick up on that and I usually manage to get past that very quickly by focusing on violence itself and moving on from there. I find tabling much more satisfying than online commentary, because "tone" etc can be so misconstrued in print, and you have no body language to let people know where you are coming from or to see their reactions to your words. Everyone is different, I am trying to become adept at "reading" people.
I love tabling for abolition. I have fantastic results on the street using abolitionist education, focusing on non-violence and never, ever, compromising on the moral issue. If it is done effectively, one get's respect and open people's minds. In my case, maybe I can relate to people better because I am a new vegan myself, and clearly remember what it was like to "love animals" and still use them, and be totally morally schizophrenic and utterly speciesist. So I relate to what is going on in people's minds when first told the truth - it hurts! I do hope I will only improve in my advocacy the longer I am vegan, and I will always try to remember my non-vegan, speciesist roots when talking to people about this, and stay humble. We must all remember that violence is the problem, and everyone wants peace and rejects violence, or claims they do. Let's talk to them about that. It works!"
EC has a podcast
http://nzveganpodcast.blogspot.com/