For a bit of a needle-phobe is it better (that is to say less intimidating) to start with nose or lip?
From whatever experience you guys have, anyway.
I have had four lip piercings (one labret and three verticals) and two nose piercings, Nose feels like you've been punched in the nose, or walked into a wall, lip is just really stingy for a second. Either one, it's only for a second ^_^ It also depends on the size, if you're just getting a small nose piercing, it's a breeze and heaps easier than lip i believe ^_^
Devo is right, do not go to hairdressers or places like "body magic" or "essencial beauty"
Go to a parlour who has an auto clave, who sterilises EVERYTHING and knows what they're talking about. You don't need training to be a piercer, and at most, a majority of "piercers" get maybe a week or two of training and know very little.
Make sure they'll be able to tell you about the proper after care too!
I'm good friends with a couple of piercers and they're the best i've ever known. The head piercer trains her apprentices for a YEAR.
Good luck with getting a piercing,

I have a fear of needles too, but it's just injections or blood tests now. Tattoos and piercing are fine, but other needles? i feel like freaking out just thinking about the, ugggh >_<