When the person you love won't live compassionately.

It was easy for me to convince my partner to become vegetarian. He hated the idea at first but he worked out that he eats what I cook for him or starve (because he can't cook).
He watches documentaries with me and reads things with me because he knows it's important to me.
I can't imagine being with someone who wouldn't even give it a go for the person their supposed to be in love with. But I suppose we're all different

Dump him for Josh.

I'm sort of having the same problem with my partner but with dairy. He was giving me shit about going vegan and teasing me saying I'm going to become like "all the other ones he knows". I finally cracked it and he's stopped but he's still eating dairy in front of me and trying to encourage me to as well. It's so hard not to slap him.

Okay, just an update for everyone who posted. In the end, he tried vegetarianism but didn't really 'care' for it. He did it only for me, which I was okay with, but ultimately the fact that he didn't care is part of why we broke up. Not because he didn't care about animals but because he was quite emotionally dead in many aspects.

It's been a while and I started talking to someone new. I think on the second day we spoke I mentioned why I'm a vegetarian and he instantly gave up meat, what the hell! Haha. Some people are so intelligent, you only need to give them one sound argument and they're willing to change the way they look at things.

I think in the end I needed to be with someone who could think for themselves and come to the same conclusions as myself.

I'm so sorry it didn't work out for you.
I feel your pain. My boyfriend of two years made it so difficult for me to be Vegan when we first started dating that I actually started having dairy again!!!! I've stopped now. I'm not going to let someone influence me from the ONE thing I'm the most passionate about in my whole life. I'm ashamed to say I let him influence me at all.

We're still together but I don't think it will be for much longer. As I get more and more passionate about animals, he gets more annoyed about it. His friends roll their eyes at me. He says that I'm too passionate for people. He won't change. Won't try vegan meals. I managed to get him to a Vegan restaurant ONCE (after pointing out that I go everywhere he wants to go, even to a place that has openly labelled itself "The Worst Vegetarian Restaurant" in Brisbane) but he wasn't keen and won't go back.
I made a vegan cake once and didn't tell him. He ate most of it, said it was delicious then stopped when I said it was vegan. THAT to me is disgraceful. That he thinks he needs animal products in EVERYTHING makes me realise that we're of two different worlds.

Good luck with this new guy! I hope it all works out for you....  

I find it helpful to think of Carnists as victims of the violent system as well as the animals. People really have been brainwashed to such an extent that they refuse to believe in any other way of life. If we all think of Carnists in this fashion it is a lot easier to feel almost sympathetic for them and their lack of feelings or empathy rather than annoyed or resentful. To me a person who turns their back on or sneers at the plight of animals in this world must allow a part of themselves to die in the process.

I admit though it is damned hard not to get angry when for instance you point out the cruel and horrible practices of the dairy industry and then someone guzzles a big bottle of milk in your face just to piss you off (has happened to me before).

That's terrible, I really feel for you. I wonder why he is so anti Vegan. Does he think it is not manly or is it some childhood thing.

I know someone who is a bit anti Vegan too (though he will at least try Vegan stuff) and I pin it on the fact that his Mother was a pretty strict and religious person who was Vegetarian (for the most part) and basically forced things like Soy Milk down his throat. He now drinks heavily and is a big meat eater and dairy drinker which I think is him trying to rebel against his upbringing.

Looks like this is an issue for lots of people. It's certainly a very frustrating situation to be in, I'm currently in a similar position.

Congrats to Niekard for persisting and sorting it out!

Dump him. I would.

Final update: I won't bore you anymore with my personal problems as they are solved. I have recently become vegan. I could only love a philosophical, intelligent and compassionate person, and that is who I am with now.

Thank you so much for your support and I can only hope it ends well for the rest of you in similar situations. Have a wonderful life, my fellow protectors of the speechless.